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If you're the one who handles the passwords, the accounts and the bills

One page, written tonight, can get your spouse past your lock screen and into your email. Your password list may not.

So the day they have to step in for you, they can get into your email, your photos and the accounts you pay the bills with.

Maybe it would. But if you're the one who keeps it all running, you're also the only one who knows how it works.

You know which account the mortgage comes out of. Which bills are on autopay. Which subscription renews on which card. Your spouse doesn't need to know, because you're there.

You've probably written some of it down somewhere, and you keep meaning to finish it. It's easy to think: we'll get to it later.

That's not a failure. It's what happens when one person runs the system: it lives in their head.

The day it's needed, your spouse's first stop is your lock screen

Your phone is where your email is likely signed in. If it asks for a passcode they don't have, they're stuck before your list can help.

From there, it piles up:

  • They may not be able to log in to pay the bills.
  • They may end up hunting down passwords and papers, trying to piece together which accounts exist.
  • The photos and messages may stay locked.
  • Every company they call may ask for something they can't give.

And they'd be doing it alone, with no one to ask.

It's not a heavy conversation. It's one practical question you can answer tonight.

Not who gets what. Not a will. Just this: how would your spouse get into your phone, your email and the accounts behind them?

Once it's answered, it's off your to-do list.

Your list is the right start. But without your phone and email, it may not get your spouse in.

A notebook, a spreadsheet, a password manager: any of them can hold the right answers. Keep yours.

But think about the last time you forgot a password. Where did the reset code go? Your phone? Your email?

If your codes go there, your phone is the first door, and your email the second. With both, your spouse may be able to reset accounts, even the ones missing from your list.

Is your passcode on your list? The real digits, in the right order?

And if nobody has it? Apple says it can't remove a passcode lock without erasing the phone.

Have a will or a trust? Keep them. They just don't open your phone.

A will or a trust says who gets what. A power of attorney says who can act for you.

But a power of attorney won't step in later. According to the American Bar Association, it only lasts until you revoke it, or until you're gone.

A binder doesn't replace any of them, and it isn't legal advice. It covers what they don't: the way in.

Start with the way in. The rest can wait.

The fix isn't a longer list. It's a different order.

First, the way in: what gets someone into your phone and your email. Written so a person who's never seen your accounts can follow it. That's what opens everything else.

Then the rest: the accounts, the bills, the people to call.

Only you can name someone, today, who can get your data from Apple or Google later

At Apple it's called Legacy Contact; at Google, Inactive Account Manager. No page can promise what any company will do later. What a page can do is put the way in on paper.

Worried about hackers? The binder shows you where your passcode should, and shouldn't, go

A page with your passcode is sensitive. So it goes on paper, sealed.

Why trust us? What you write stays with you. We never see it

Our name, Access-First, is the idea: the way in first, everything else after. We make one binder, built that way. You fill it in on your own device and keep it. We're not a law firm, and it's not an app.

Questions? Write to hello@accessfirstbinder.com.

Wait, and your spouse finds out at the lock screen. Start now, and there's time to fix it

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The first way: you wait. One morning, your spouse sits at the kitchen table with your phone. The lock screen asks for a passcode. They find out right there, alone.

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The second way: you write the way in now, while you're still here to get it right. Sealed, where they'll know to look.

Here's how the binder gets you there in one evening.

The Access-First Binder: your spouse gets the way in first, then everything else, in order

The cover says the whole idea: Access first. Everything else follows.

It's a 17-page family emergency binder for U.S. households. You download it, fill it in on screen and print what you'll hand over.

Three levels, so you never face 17 pages at once:

Two tablets: the binder cover, Family Emergency Binder, US Edition, page 1 of 17, and behind it the Start Here guide cover
  • So your spouse can get in, and knows what to do first. Level 1, one evening (about an hour): the way into your phone and your email, the first steps and what not to do, already written for them, and where the papers are.
  • So no one has to piece it together. Level 2, one weekend: every account, and who it would pay out to. The loans in your name only that your spouse may not know about. What to keep, stop or claim. Your social and other online accounts, and what to do with each. The people to call.
  • So it's still true the day it's needed. Level 3, once a year at tax time: a 13-point check, and a calendar reminder that brings you back.

One page holds what your spouse needs to get into your phone and your email

Page 4, the Access Chain, comes first: without it, nothing else in the binder can be opened. It has room for up to two devices:

Tablet showing the blank Access Chain form, page 4 of 17: fields for phone passcode, Apple ID or Google account and email
Actual Access Chain · Page 4
  • So they get past the lock screen: your phone's passcode.
  • So they can read what comes in, bills and account alerts included: your main email and its password.
  • So they may be able to reset accounts missing from your list: where your login codes go, a text to which number or which app.
  • So the right person can get your data later: who you've named with Apple or Google.
  • So your photos, accounts and saved passwords may stay within reach, even if the phone won't open: your Apple ID or Google account, where your backup codes are, and how to open your password manager.

Spouse not a tech person? The Handoff Kit walks them through it, step by step

Page 4 lists what your spouse needs. It doesn't walk them through using it, or explain where to look when a code comes in.

The Handoff Kit adds four things: two bonus booklets and two files.

Bonus 1 · For Whoever's Left

Two tablets: the cover of Handoff Kit Bonus 1, For Whoever's Left, and behind it the page Getting Into the Phone

So your spouse can follow it without you. Level 1, rewritten for them in plain words. Five pages:

  • So they don't have to understand everything today: it starts with three things to do, and what can wait.
  • Every step spelled out, like "Pick up the phone. Press the side button." It says where to look when a code comes in, and doesn't assume they know what an Apple ID is.
  • So they see the screen, not just a sentence: room for five of your screenshots, from the lock screen to the password manager.
  • A place to start if the binder feels like too much: it goes in the envelope with page 4.

Page 4 gives them the answers. This booklet gives them the steps.

Bonus 2 · Where to Keep It

Two tablets: cover of Handoff Kit Bonus 2, Where to Keep It, and behind it a table of four places and what to keep in each

So you know where the most sensitive page in your house should go. Four pages:

  • So the envelope gets found, and stays current: what goes in, where it goes, who knows it exists, when to open it and reseal it.
  • Four places, and what to keep in each: a home safe or locked drawer, a safe deposit box, a shared cloud drive, a relative's house, with what each is good and bad for. Use two of the four, never only one.
  • Any copy that leaves the house should be safe to lose: what to black out, and what can stay.
  • A plan if the binder is ever lost or stolen: what to change first, in order.

Page 17 of the binder tells you where to keep it. This booklet tells you why, and what to do if it goes wrong.

And two files:

  • So it fits your household: an editable copy in Word or Google Docs. Add rows, change the wording.
  • When one thing changes: every page as its own file, ready to update and reprint.

Any system can work, if it gets your spouse into your phone and email first. This one starts there

That goes for this binder too.

After tonight, the part that matters most is done. Your spouse won't face that lock screen alone

The way in, the part you kept putting off, is written down and sealed. One person outside your house knows where it is. One less thing to carry in your head.

And if one morning your spouse sits at the kitchen table with your phone, the envelope is where you said it would be, with page 4 inside. The binder tells them what to do first, and where the papers are. They won't be lost, or left hunting down passwords.

Put the way in on paper tonight. Add the Handoff Kit, and your spouse gets it step by step, in plain words

Founding Price First 50 Orders4 / 50

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Ends at 50 orders or November 26, 2026 at 11:59 PM PT, whichever comes first.

Includes the booklet written for your spouse

The Access-First Binder + Handoff Kit

Your order page opens with your download link.

  • The Access-First Binder Fill in on screen · 17 pagesYour spouse gets the way in first, then everything else, in order
  • Start Here guide Step by step, with screenshotsYou're not stuck when you don't know an answer: the guide shows where to look, or what to write instead.
  • Yearly reminder Google, Apple or Outlook calendarIt's easy to keep up to date: a reminder brings you back once a year.
  • For Whoever's Left Bonus 1 · written for your spouseSo your spouse can follow it without you: Level 1, rewritten for them in plain words.
  • Where to Keep It Bonus 2 · the sealed-envelope methodSo you know where the most sensitive page in your house should go.
  • Editable copy Customize your binderSo it fits your household: an editable copy in Word or Google Docs.
  • Every page as its own file 17 files, ready to reprintWhen one thing changes: every page as its own file, ready to update and reprint.
€50,95

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The founding price ends on Thanksgiving night, or sooner, at the 50th order.

365 days to ask for every dollar back.

The Access-First Binder

Your order page opens with your download link.

  • The Access-First Binder Fill in on screen · 17 pagesYour spouse gets the way in first, then everything else, in order
  • Start Here guide Step by step, with screenshotsYou're not stuck when you don't know an answer: the guide shows where to look, or what to write instead.
  • Yearly reminder Google, Apple or Outlook calendarIt's easy to keep up to date: a reminder brings you back once a year.
  • For Whoever's Left Bonus 1 · written for your spouseSo your spouse can follow it without you: Level 1, rewritten for them in plain words.
  • Where to Keep It Bonus 2 · the sealed-envelope methodSo you know where the most sensitive page in your house should go.
  • Editable copy Customize your binderSo it fits your household: an editable copy in Word or Google Docs.
  • Every page as its own file 17 files, ready to reprintWhen one thing changes: every page as its own file, ready to update and reprint.
€33,95

Founding price · then €43

Get the Binder now
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The founding price ends on Thanksgiving night, or sooner, at the 50th order.

365 days to ask for every dollar back.

A blank page is free. It won't tell you what to write, or your spouse what to do

Here's what €50,95 gets you instead:

  • You don't start from scratch: the questions are already written, in the order that matters, the way in first.
  • You're not stuck when you don't know an answer: the guide shows where to look, or what to write instead.
  • Your spouse knows what to do first: those steps are already written.
  • Your spouse can follow it without you: a version written for them, step by step, for the day they open the envelope.

If a blank page doesn't get your spouse in, they find out on the day they need it.

The founding price: lower until the 50th order or Thanksgiving, whichever comes first

  • For the first 50 orders, both options counted together, or until 11:59 p.m. Pacific on Thursday, November 26, Thanksgiving. Whichever comes first.
  • Then it goes to €60 and €43. No extensions.
  • You pay once. No subscription.

Why lower now? It's our launch price. And a binder only helps once it's filled in: the founding price is for the people who start now, not someday.

How to get it, step by step

  1. Choose your binder. Binder + Kit (€50,95) or Binder (€33,95).

  2. Tap the button. Your cart opens: tap Check out.

  3. Enter email and payment. Type it carefully: your link goes there.

  4. Download right away. On your order page, and by email.

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Start before Thanksgiving, while the founding price lasts

The founding price ends on Thanksgiving night, or sooner, at the 50th order.

There's a second reason. The guide asks you to tell one person outside your house where the binder and the envelope are. If that person will be at your table on Thanksgiving, you can tell them in person.

THE WHOLE-YEAR GUARANTEEACCESS-FIRST365DAYSEVERY DOLLAR BACK

The Whole-Year Guarantee: a full year to ask for every dollar back

365 days, for any reason. Email us: no form, no questions, every dollar back. You keep the files.

If page 4 doesn't get your spouse into your phone and your email, or you change your mind for any other reason, email us within 365 days.

One refund per customer.

You don't risk a dollar.

Tonight, write down how your spouse gets in

Choose your binder and tap the button. Tonight, write page 4 and seal it. You have 365 days to decide it was worth it.

The founding price ends at the 50th order or at 11:59 p.m. Pacific on November 26, whichever comes first.

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Questions

Is it a subscription?

No. You pay once, and nothing renews. And you have 365 days to ask for every dollar back.

What if I buy it and never fill it in?

Level 1 is three pages, one evening (about an hour), and the binder tells you where to stop. Add the yearly reminder once, and it brings you back every April.

Won't it go out of date?

The yearly check tells you what to update, and a change log keeps track. Change a password before then? Reprint page 4 and seal a new envelope.

Why would I give my spouse my passcode?

So they can get past your lock screen the day it's needed. Page 4 goes in a sealed envelope, to be opened only if you can't.

My spouse already knows my passcode. Do I need this?

Then your phone is the easy part. The way in is also your email, the account your phone is signed in to, and wherever your login codes go. And the binder covers what comes after.

Will it work on my computer?

Yes, in Chrome, Edge or Safari. No Adobe Acrobat, nothing to install, no account. On an iPhone, the Files app works. Android phones don't all handle PDF forms the same way, so the guide suggests a computer.

Is it made for the U.S.?

Yes. It's the U.S. Edition, written for U.S. households.

Isn't a Legacy Contact, or my password manager's emergency access, enough?

Use them: page 4 has a row for your Legacy Contact and one for your password manager. But even with a Legacy Contact, Apple leaves out the passwords your iPhone saves in iCloud Keychain. And page 4 doesn't live in any company's system: it's on paper, in your house.

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